Back in the 90's, we were all watching Seinfeld. It was a "show about nothing," but somehow it still impacted our culture and changed the way we think about things. Like dipping our vegetables into dip only once, or accounting for "shrinkage." While those things must be taken into account, the Soup Nazi has been the biggest influence for me. No, I don't make a lot of soups. The ones I do make are fairly rustic (read: simple, and not worthy of a restaurant). But I understand the Soup Nazi. More on that in a minute.
Yesterday, Bob's brother dropped by. He was dropping off stuff for Bob. When Nephew hit the door, I knew this was a family adventure and they were there for the express purpose of talking to me. You see, Bob and his brother had a rift happen last year. Bob came to me a couple of months ago and expressed an interest in renewing this relationship. Being a good wife, I said that that would be fine, just don't expect me to be a party to this. If Bob feels like this is something that he needs to do in his life, he can have all the time and space that he needs to make it happen. I believe that I told him to count me out because "...I'm not getting hurt by this family again." I might as well have waived a red flag in front of this brother because now he seems determined to "mend" things with me. I've found forgiveness, and wish this brother all the best. I just don't wish to be a party to his life anymore, nor am I going to go out of my way to be nice. Well, brother brought his New Flame along with him. I say New Flame, but it is more serious than that. They're going to move in together. They're acting like they're married. I have yet to meet this woman--by design. As they were walking in the front door, I was sneaking out the back. Handy having that deck door Bob put in. Anyway, I've made my stand on this. I've expressed my feelings and I'm sticking to my decisions.
That brings us back to Seinfeld. I make pies for family gatherings--usually holidays. I like this gig because I can make these pies a day or two before the event, which leaves the holiday free and clear. I don't have to worry about any major cooking, instead, spend time with my family. I'm going to take a page from the Soup Nazi's book. No Pie For You! That's right, my baking skills will only be reserved for those who treat me nice the whole year through. Just as I don't need to be wasting my life energy on relationships that will never be wholesome, I'm not going to waste time, energy and resources on baked goods for people who don't appreciate me personally. This is just another way to get rid of clutter in my life, and free up time for things that I really want to do.
Thank you, Seinfeld, for the inspiration. Your show may be over, but your characters still live on and impact our lives.
Way to do what you feel you need to do to protect yourself. Sometimes you just have to go where the peace is even if it means going against the grain.
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